Friendship first thing is fine if both people are mature enough to be honest about it when feelings develop. Otherwise you get into a period of fuzziness that causes much anguish to both parties ("wait, what did he mean by that? Is she saying what I think she's saying? How come he doesn't get the hint? When he did that... was that b/c he was 'just friends' or is there something more?"). It's nice when you have a solid friendship to build off of... but the transition to romance can be a headache unless people are mature and honest to handle it.

Honesty and maturity is just key whatever way you choose to go about dating. I mean, if people are honest and mature, then dating within a fellowship would be easier... not that there won't be feelings of hurt or pain if the relationship ended, but at least there wasn't any game playing and both the brother and sister know that if the relationship were to end, they did all they could to treat the other with respect and integrity.

Anyway, that's my two cents -- but I wasn't there last night...



posted by miscmusings at 2:19 PM

Friendship First
I dunno man. Am I old fashion to think that developing a friendship first before dating someone is the best way to go? Granted that everyone has their own styles and opinions on this....I just think it's more "proper" doing the friendship thing first. If you don't get to know a person first before you ask them out, aren't you just basing it all on looks? I'm not too fond of the dating non-friends idea.

Also, so if you don't want to date people from within the fellowship, where does one go to find that potential special someone? Clubs and bars then right? Makes it hard for those who can't dance. =(



posted by Dan at 1:59 PM

Inquiring Minds Want to Know

Could someone summarize last night's talk to us folk who for one reason or the other couldn't make it to Lumps last night? BTW, Flower Mart on 6th and Brannan rocks. Thanks for the 411 peeps.

posted by dunamis at 12:46 PM

I like this article that addresses relationships.

Although I missed most of last night's message (cause of work, not because of a date or anything like that), I did enjoy the "guys circle" that took place after John and Cyn spoke. Many guys shared, it was cool. I'm no expert on the topic of relationships, but I personally do think dating friends is a good idea. I (personally) think dating someone you already know as a friend is much healthier oppose to dating a newly acquainted person. Just my two cents. Number 4 in the article touches on this too.



posted by Dan at 11:27 AM

what did people think about the lg nite? relationships topic?

personally, i had heard it nearly all before. i did like how john and cyn talked about the guy's role leading and how they bring god into the dynamic. i've heard pastor jeff's dating seminar about 3 times. i think i havae all of his notes too. ask me sometime and i'll give you the nutshell recap. it's good stuff. i've shared his material with others before.

random sidenote...i think how low guys should go is 1/2(guy's age) + 9. i read it in a magazine. so for a 25 year old...that's about a 21.5 year old girl. seems about right to me. some people say 7. i dunno about that.

posted by gw at 3:03 AM

Happy Valentine's Day!



posted by Dan at 3:29 PM

http://www.lebonze.co.uk/stuff/move.htm



posted by Dan at 6:47 PM